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The Coparent App user guide
A clearer way to manage co-parenting day to day
The Coparent App gives separated parents one shared place for messages, arrangements, expenses and organised records. This visual guide shows what each feature does and when to use it.
Screens shown are from a demonstration family. Tap or click any screenshot to enlarge it.
Getting started
Begin with the parts your family actually needs
You do not have to use every tool at once. Start with one shared task—such as messages or the calendar—then add other features when they become useful.
Choose your boundaries
Decide whether AI review, Message Limiter, quiet hours and read receipts are appropriate for your communication.
Add one real arrangement
Send a practical message, add a calendar event or plan the next handover. Build the shared record through normal use.
Need to discuss logistics?Use Chat.
Need a shared plan?Use Calendar or Handover.
Need to record a cost?Use Payments.
Need a professional to review?Grant read only access.
Messages and boundaries
Communicate clearly, without losing the record
Keep child focused arrangements in a dated conversation. Optional controls can help you review wording, limit repeated messages and choose when normal notifications stay quiet.
Keep practical conversations together
Use Chat for handovers, appointments, school information and other child related arrangements. Messages stay in chronological order, making it easier to return to what was actually said.
- See the sender, date and time.
- Search the conversation when you need a detail.
- Use read receipts only when both parents opt in.
Write as though a neutral professional may read the message later: clear, factual and focused on the child.
Choose communication controls deliberately
AI Mode reviews normal messages before they are sent. It does not send automatically—you can edit, send or cancel.
Message Limiter can pause repeated normal messages after three unanswered messages until the other parent replies. Emergency messages are treated separately.
Notification Boundaries let you mute normal alerts during chosen quiet hours. They do not prevent the other parent from writing.
These tools support boundaries; they do not guarantee safer communication or replace safeguarding advice.
Message Limiter
See exactly how the unanswered message limit works before turning it on.
Calls by agreement
Parents can agree a time, then both open the call room. It does not ring like a normal phone call.
Calendar and handovers
Turn arrangements into a shared plan
Add pickups, drop offs, calls, appointments and custom events. Both calendar views show the same shared arrangements in the format that is most useful at the time.
See the month, then open the detail
Use Month view for the overall pattern and the event list for times, notes and who created each entry. Selecting a date lets you add a pickup, drop off, call or custom event.
- Add the child, time and practical notes.
- Use a clear event name that both parents will recognise.
- Check the list before a busy week or handover.
Record what happened at handover
The Handover area connects upcoming pickup and drop off arrangements with a shared log. Use it to record practical details rather than relying on memory or a separate note.
The nights stayed figure is calculated from the handover log, so its usefulness depends on the history being complete and accurate.
Add the calendar event first. It can then appear as the next scheduled handover ready to log.
Expenses, diary and child information
Keep practical family information organised
Use the right record for the right job: Payments for child related costs, Diary for observations and follow ups, and Child info for shared practical details.
Track agreed expenses and contributions
Create an upcoming expense to show the total and what has been contributed. Log completed payments with a date, note and receipt where available.
- Keep the description specific.
- Record part payments as they happen.
- Use the date filter when looking for an older entry.
The Payments area is a shared record. It does not move money between parents or decide who is legally responsible for a cost.
Use the Diary for observations, not arguments
Record relevant information about a child’s routine, behaviour, sleep, appetite or wellbeing. Entries and follow ups are shared, so write factually and check the detail before submitting.
Ratings can help show context, but they are personal observations rather than a clinical assessment.
Diary entries are designed to be permanent. Do not include unnecessary sensitive information.
Store practical child information
Child info gives linked parents a shared place for information such as healthcare and dentist details. Fill in as much or as little as is genuinely useful.
Review it after a change of school, surgery or contact detail so it remains accurate.
Exports, professionals and support
Share organised information when you choose
Parents remain in control of professional access. The app also brings useful UK support and official resource links into one place.
Grant read only access to a professional
Where needed, a parent can grant a verified professional read only access to the family thread and revoke it from the access screen. This can help a solicitor, mediator or support worker review a clearer chronological record.
Professional access is not automatic. A parent must grant permission to the relevant thread.
Create an organised export
Use the export when you need a copy of the family record for your own files or to discuss with a professional. The PDF keeps messages and relevant linked records in date order.
An export is not automatically admissible evidence, court approved or guaranteed to be accepted. Ask your legal adviser what is appropriate for your case.
Get Help
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Useful Documents
Open selected links to official UK forms, guidance and planning resources in your browser.
The Coparent App does not replace legal advice, mediation, safeguarding services or emergency support. It is not appropriate for every situation. If anyone is in immediate danger, call 999.
A quick decision guide
Which feature should I use?
Choose the smallest tool that matches the task. Clear records are easier to understand when each type of information stays in the right place.
Chat
For clear child related messages and arrangements.
Calendar
For pickups, drop offs, calls, appointments and events.
Handover
For a shared log connected to scheduled handovers.
Payments
For upcoming expenses, contributions and completed payments.
Diary
For relevant notes about a child’s routines and wellbeing.
Professional access or Export
For parent controlled read only review or an organised PDF copy.
Common questions
User guide FAQs
Does the other parent need to use the app?
The shared features work through a linked family space, so both parents need their own access to that family.
Does AI send a message automatically?
No. AI Mode shows reviewed wording before sending. You can edit it, send it or cancel.
Can a professional see the family record automatically?
No. A parent must grant a verified professional read only access to the relevant thread. Current access is shown on the access screen and can be revoked there.
Is the export court approved?
No court approval claim is made. The export is designed to help keep an organised record. Ask a legal professional what material is relevant and how it should be presented.
Can records be deleted?
Shared records are designed to remain part of the family history. Check messages and entries carefully before submitting them, and contact support if you believe personal data needs to be reviewed.
What should I do in an emergency?
The app is not an emergency or safeguarding service. If someone is in immediate danger, call 999. Use appropriate specialist support for safeguarding concerns.
Ready to put the guide into practice?
Start with one real arrangement and let the shared record grow through normal, practical use.